September 20, 2023

What is narcissistic abuse?

This article explores what narcissistic abuse is, the signs of it, and how to heal from narcissistic abuse.

By Annie Wright|Relationship
Narcissistic abuse

In recent years, the term “narcissistic abuse” has garnered considerable attention, bringing awareness to the detrimental consequences of involvement with a narcissist. 

Not only has the term grown in popularity, but statistics reinforce how common narcissistic abuse is. 

According to a study published in the Journal of Interpersonal Violence, victims of narcissistic abuse often experience symptoms of depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). 

Furthermore, the National Domestic Violence Hotline reports that emotional abuse, such as the tactics used by narcissists, is present in 95% of abusive relationships.

Narcissistic abuse is a widespread and deeply impactful experience, and healing from narcissistic abuse entails a comprehensive journey. 

In this blog post, we will explore the concept of narcissistic abuse, emphasizing indicators and effects, while also offering crucial steps for healing and reclaiming your life and well-being.

How do I know if I’ve experienced narcissistic abuse?

Recognizing narcissistic abuse can be challenging, as it often involves subtle and manipulative behaviors from the narcissist. 

However, if you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have experienced some of the following signs:

  • Emotional Manipulation: Narcissists possess a remarkable ability to manipulate emotions, causing doubt in your own feelings and perceptions. Through gaslighting and shifting blame, they frequently attribute any relationship issues to you.
  • Constant Criticism: Narcissists possess an inherent inclination for perpetual criticism, leaving one feeling perpetually inadequate no matter the efforts made. Their actions undermine one’s self-esteem and intrinsic value.
  • Isolation: Narcissists often attempt to isolate individuals from their loved ones, instilling dependency for emotional support and validation.
  • Idealization and Devaluation: In the beginning, a narcissist idealizes you, showering you with affection and admiration. But eventually, they devalue you, causing emotional turmoil.
  • Lack of Empathy: Narcissists exhibit a notable absence of empathy, making it challenging for them to comprehend or acknowledge the validity of your emotions.
  • Power Struggles: They have a strong desire for control and power within the relationship, which often results in ongoing power struggles and a quest for dominance.

What are the signs of narcissistic abuse?

Recognizing the signs of narcissistic abuse is important when seeking to break free from the cycle. Here are some signs to pay attention to:

  • Verbal Abuse: Narcissists engage in name-calling, insults, and emotional attacks to belittle and hurt you.
  • Manipulative Behavior: They use charm and charisma to manipulate others into fulfilling their desires.
  • Grandiosity: Narcissists have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and believe they are superior to others.
  • Lack of Accountability: They rarely take responsibility for their actions and often blame others for their problems.
  • Triangulation: Narcissists may create drama and jealousy by involving third parties in conflicts.
  • Emotional Blackmail: They use guilt and fear to control and get their way.
  • Narcissistic Rage: When their ego is threatened, they may react with explosive anger.

What are the healing steps from narcissistic abuse?

Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a journey that requires time, patience, and self-compassion. Here are essential healing steps to consider:

  • No Contact or Limited Contact: If possible, cutting off contact with the narcissist is crucial for healing. If complete detachment is not feasible, minimize contact and set strong boundaries.
  • Educate Yourself: Learn about narcissistic abuse and its effects to gain clarity and validation for your experiences.
  • Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that nurture your well-being, such as exercise, mindfulness, and hobbies.
  • Rebuild Self-Esteem: Focus on rebuilding your self-esteem by recognizing your strengths and achievements.
  • Set Boundaries: Establish healthy boundaries to protect yourself from further abuse.
  • Join Support Groups: Connecting with others who have experienced narcissistic abuse can provide a sense of community and shared understanding.

Experiencing narcissistic abuse can have a profoundly devastating impact, resulting in enduring emotional scars that may last a long time.

Understanding the indicators of narcissistic abuse and initiating the path towards healing are pivotal in reclaiming one’s life and well-being.

Remember, taking the initiative to seek professional guidance is the first step towards regaining control over your life and finding relief from narcissistic abuse.

If you have been asking the question, “Have I experienced narcissistic abuse?” and if you resonated with any part of this post and you’re currently looking for a therapist to support you in recovering from narcissistic abuse, we would love to be of support to you.

At Evergreen Counseling, we understand the importance of finding a therapist who resonates with you.

We invite you to take the next step toward your well-being by booking a complimentary 20-minute consultation call with us

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