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For many of us, it’s a dream to build a family of our own.
And while every single parent on the planet will tell you that it’s the hardest job (if you’re trying to do it well) it can sometimes feel impossibly hard because we’re often trying to heal ourselves while we raise our children.
We may deal with excessive worries and thoughts like:
“Am I passing down intergenerational trauma to them?”
“How can I help build their resiliency and capacities for stress when mine feel so limited?”
“Am I running out of time to have a close, connected relationship with them? Is that even possible if I never saw it modeled?”
And, in addition to these thoughts, you may feel intensely triggered by your children.
Your kid ignoring you triggers rage in your body that scares you.
Your child’s out-of-control behaviors make you feel helpless and concerned.
You both want to give them what you never had but also feel intense jealousy towards them sometimes.
You watch yourself wanting to shut down and walk away from them when they have big feelings and you realize that your own, deeply rooted attachment patterns are in conflict with your desire to help them feel securely attached.
And, to top it all off, you’re doing it without any models for functional, healthy parenting and you have a child who’s unwilling to participate in family counseling, child therapy, or their own adolescent therapy.
Who wouldn’t feel overwhelmed in these circumstances?
But you don’t need your child to attend their own therapy or family counseling with you in order to make progress and improvements in your relationship.
We understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel overwhelming. We’re here to make this decision easier for you.
Starting therapy can bring up mixed feelings—part of you might be eager, while another part hesitates to confront deeply buried emotions. You might doubt whether therapy can help, especially if you’ve struggled for a long time or had disappointing experiences with untrained therapists or life coaches. At Evergreen Counseling, our trauma-trained therapists are deeply committed to providing expert care.
Take our 20-question, five-minute quiz to find out what kind of specialized therapy support you might need right now.