For many of us, it’s a dream to build a family of our own.
And while every single parent on the planet will tell you that it’s the hardest job (if you’re trying to do it well) it can sometimes feel impossibly hard because we’re often trying to heal ourselves while we raise our children.
We may deal with excessive worries and thoughts like:
“Am I passing down intergenerational trauma to them?”
“How can I help build their resiliency and capacities for stress when mine feel so limited?”
“Am I running out of time to have a close, connected relationship with them? Is that even possible if I never saw it modeled?”
And, in addition to these thoughts, you may feel intensely triggered by your children.
Your kid ignoring you triggers rage in your body that scares you.
Your child’s out-of-control behaviors make you feel helpless and concerned.
You both want to give them what you never had but also feel intense jealousy towards them sometimes.
You watch yourself wanting to shut down and walk away from them when they have big feelings and you realize that your own, deeply rooted attachment patterns are in conflict with your desire to help them feel securely attached.
And, to top it all off, you’re doing it without any models for functional, healthy parenting and you have a child who’s unwilling to participate in family counseling, child therapy, or their own adolescent therapy.
Who wouldn’t feel overwhelmed in these circumstances?
But you don’t need your child to attend their own therapy or family counseling with you in order to make progress and improvements in your relationship.
Some of the issues we can help you with through parent counseling
- Living with a child, adolescent or young adult whose behaviors are “out of control”, embarrassing, or possibly frightening
- Feeling disrespected and ignored in your own home
- A young person who thinks they “know it all” and don’t need to listen to you or other adults
- Exhaustion after having “tried everything” but with no change
- Helplessness and concern for your child’s future wellbeing
- Arguments over simple matters that escalate in shouting
- Anger and sadness over the loss of connection with your child
- Negative feedback from your child no matter what you do
- Your child refusing to attend family or their own therapy
- Difficulty in coparenting following a divorce or breakup
- Having your own attachment wounds be activated by your child
What you can expect with parent counseling
Are You Ready to Begin?- Support and practical techniques to reduce challenging behaviors from a child, adolescent, or young adult
- Increased understanding of how kids and young people think to better strategize your responses
- A plan to rebuild your relationship with your child and reduce the frequency and intensity of arguments
- A toolbox of evidence-based strategies and interventions to help de-escalate your child’s concerning behaviors and allow you both to feel closer and more connected
What if I’m Not Ready?
Not Quite Ready to Book a Complimentary Concierge Matching Call? That’s Okay.
We understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel overwhelming. We’re here to make this decision easier for you.
Starting therapy can bring up mixed feelings—part of you might be eager, while another part hesitates to confront deeply buried emotions. You might doubt whether therapy can help, especially if you’ve struggled for a long time or had disappointing experiences with untrained therapists or life coaches. At Evergreen Counseling, our trauma-trained therapists are deeply committed to providing expert care.
Here’s How We Can Help You Move Forward
- Complimentary Concierge Matching Call: Our concierge matching call is an opportunity for you to ask questions, share your concerns, and see if our approach feels right for you—without any obligation.
- Reimbursement Options: Concerned about the cost? We can guide you on how to get reimbursed for therapy using your out-of-network insurance benefits, making high-quality care more accessible to you.
- Informed Decision: Whether you’re ready to start or still exploring your options, we want you to feel fully informed and confident in your choice.
