Are you someone struggling with self-sabotage patterns?
Right now, you may be experiencing:
- Repeatedly undermining your own goals, success, or happiness, often unconsciously
- Procrastinating on important tasks, missing deadlines, or performing below your capabilities.
- Making impulsive decisions that derail your progress (e.g., quitting jobs, ending relationships, overspending)
- Engaging in behaviors that conflict with your stated values or intentions (e.g., substance use, unhealthy eating, neglecting self-care)
- Difficulty accepting positive feedback or success, perhaps feeling undeserving or fearing it won’t last
- Picking fights or creating conflict in relationships when things are going well
- A pattern of getting close to achieving something important and then finding a way to mess it up
- Feeling frustrated, confused, or self-critical about why you keep getting in your own way
You’re realizing that your self-sabotage patterns are getting in the way of your life:
- They prevent you from achieving your potential and reaching important goals
- They damage your relationships, career prospects, or financial stability
- They erode your self-esteem and confidence
- You feel stuck in a cycle of striving and then undermining your own efforts
- It causes significant frustration, regret, and self-blame
- You feel powerless to change these recurring patterns
You’re wondering…
- Why do I keep shooting myself in the foot?
- What is driving these self-destructive behaviors?
- Am I afraid of success, failure, or something else entirely?
- How can I break free from these patterns and stop getting in my own way?
- Could this be related to past experiences, low self-worth, or unconscious beliefs?
- Can therapy help me understand and change these self-sabotaging tendencies?
You’re longing for…
- The ability to pursue your goals consistently without undermining yourself.
- Freedom from the cycle of self-sabotage and regret.
- Increased self-awareness about the triggers and roots of these patterns.
- Alignment between your actions and your intentions or values.
- Greater self-compassion and reduced self-criticism.
- Confidence in your ability to achieve and sustain success and happiness.
How we can help you.
At Evergreen Counseling, we understand that self-sabotage is rarely intentional; it often stems from unconscious conflicts, limiting beliefs, fear (of success, failure, intimacy, etc.), or unresolved trauma. These patterns can feel baffling and deeply frustrating. Our trauma-informed therapists help you explore the underlying drivers of self-sabotage in a compassionate, non-judgmental way.
What you’re longing for is possible.
By pursuing therapy for self-sabotage patterns at Evergreen Counseling, you can imagine the following:
Undermining your own goals and relationships despite good intentions.
Taking aligned, intentional action that supports your growth.
Procrastinating, missing deadlines, or disengaging from what matters.
Following through on your goals with greater consistency and clarity.
Feeling like you’re “the problem” but not knowing why.
Understanding your behavior patterns and responding with self-awareness.
Acting out when things start going well.
Tolerating success and joy without sabotaging them.
Feeling stuck in a cycle of regret and shame.
Replacing self-blame with self-compassion and possibility.
What if I’m Not Ready?
Not Quite Ready to Book a Complimentary Concierge Matching Call? That’s Okay.
We understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel overwhelming. We’re here to make this decision easier for you.
Starting therapy can bring up mixed feelings—part of you might be eager, while another part hesitates to confront deeply buried emotions. You might doubt whether therapy can help, especially if you’ve struggled for a long time or had disappointing experiences with untrained therapists or life coaches. At Evergreen Counseling, our trauma-trained therapists are deeply committed to providing expert care.
Here’s How We Can Help You Move Forward
- Complimentary Concierge Matching Call: Our concierge matching call is an opportunity for you to ask questions, share your concerns, and see if our approach feels right for you—without any obligation.
- Reimbursement Options: Concerned about the cost? We can guide you on how to get reimbursed for therapy using your out-of-network insurance benefits, making high-quality care more accessible to you.
- Informed Decision: Whether you’re ready to start or still exploring your options, we want you to feel fully informed and confident in your choice.
