Are you someone struggling with a fear of intimacy?
Right now, you may be experiencing:
- Difficulty forming deep, close emotional connections with others, even when you desire them
- Pushing people away or sabotaging relationships when they start to get serious or emotionally close
- Feeling uncomfortable with vulnerability, either your own or others
- Keeping partners or friends at an emotional distance, perhaps through superficiality, avoidance, or criticism.
- A pattern of short-term relationships or avoiding commitment altogether
- Feeling anxious, trapped, or overwhelmed when relationships become intimate
- Mistrust of others intentions or fear of being hurt, engulfed, or controlled in close relationships
- Loneliness despite potentially having many social connections
You’re realizing that your fear of intimacy is getting in the way of your life:
- It prevents you from experiencing the deep connection and belonging you long for
- Your relationships remain superficial or end prematurely, leading to frustration and sadness
- You feel lonely and isolated, even if you appear socially active
- You miss out on the support, comfort, and joy that close relationships can provide
- Your fear creates a self-fulfilling prophecy, pushing away potential partners or friends
- You feel misunderstood or fundamentally different from others who seem to connect easily
You’re wondering…
- Why am I so afraid of getting close to people, even when I want connection?
- What am I actually afraid of – being hurt, rejected, controlled, or losing myself?
- Can I ever overcome this fear and have truly intimate relationships?
- How did this fear develop? Is it related to my past experiences or family background?
- Will I always keep people at arm’s length?
- Can therapy help me understand and overcome my fear of intimacy?
You’re longing for…
- The ability to form deep, meaningful, and lasting connections with others.
- Feeling safe and comfortable with emotional closeness and vulnerability.
- Trust in yourself and others within intimate relationships.
- Freedom from the anxiety and avoidance patterns that sabotage closeness.
- Authentic intimacy built on mutual respect, trust, and emotional sharing.
- Healing from the past experiences that contribute to your fear.
How we can help you.
At Evergreen Counseling, we understand that a fear of intimacy often stems from early attachment wounds, past relational betrayals, or traumatic experiences where vulnerability was unsafe or punished. It’s a protective mechanism that, while once necessary, now prevents you from having the fulfilling connections you desire. Our trauma-informed therapists help you gently explore the roots of your fear in a safe, supportive space.
What you’re longing for is possible.
By pursuing therapy for fear of intimacy at Evergreen Counseling, you can imagine the following:
Feeling lonely and disconnected.
Developing the capacity for secure attachment.
Sabotaging closeness due to deep-seated fears rooted in past experiences.
Feeling safer with vulnerability, building healthier and more intimate relationships, and healing from underlying wounds.
What if I’m Not Ready?
Not Quite Ready to Book a Complimentary Concierge Matching Call? That’s Okay.
We understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel overwhelming. We’re here to make this decision easier for you.
Starting therapy can bring up mixed feelings—part of you might be eager, while another part hesitates to confront deeply buried emotions. You might doubt whether therapy can help, especially if you’ve struggled for a long time or had disappointing experiences with untrained therapists or life coaches. At Evergreen Counseling, our trauma-trained therapists are deeply committed to providing expert care.
Here’s How We Can Help You Move Forward
- Complimentary Concierge Matching Call: Our concierge matching call is an opportunity for you to ask questions, share your concerns, and see if our approach feels right for you—without any obligation.
- Reimbursement Options: Concerned about the cost? We can guide you on how to get reimbursed for therapy using your out-of-network insurance benefits, making high-quality care more accessible to you.
- Informed Decision: Whether you’re ready to start or still exploring your options, we want you to feel fully informed and confident in your choice.
