Are you struggling with the effects of people pleasing?
Right now, you may be experiencing:
- Difficulty saying no or setting boundaries with others
- Prioritizing others’ needs and wants above your own
- Anxiety about disappointing people or causing conflict
- Resentment that builds as your own needs go unmet
- Exhaustion from constantly trying to keep others happy
- Uncertainty about your own preferences or desires
- A sense that your worth depends on what you do for others
You've started to recognize how people pleasing is impacting your life:
- Relationships feel unbalanced with you giving more than you receive
- Your authentic self remains hidden behind a carefully constructed facade
- Physical and emotional exhaustion results from chronic self-neglect
- Decision-making is complicated by excessive concern about others’ opinions
- Resentment builds even as you continue accommodating others
- Your sense of identity is tied to external validation rather than internal values
- Life choices may reflect others’ expectations rather than your true desires
You’re wondering…
- How did I develop this pattern of putting everyone else first?
- Is it selfish to prioritize my own needs sometimes?
- How do I set boundaries without damaging important relationships?
- What’s the difference between kindness and unhealthy people pleasing?
- Will people still value me if I stop doing everything for them?
- How do I even know what I want after focusing on others for so long?
- Is it possible to change such a deeply ingrained pattern?
You’re longing for…
- The ability to set healthy boundaries without excessive guilt.
- Authentic relationships based on mutual care rather than one-sided giving.
- Clarity about your own values, preferences, and desires.
- Freedom from the constant anxiety about others’ approval.
- Energy for your own priorities and wellbeing.
- Self-worth based on who you are rather than what you do for others.
- The courage to be authentic even when it might disappoint others.
How we can help you.
At Evergreen Counseling, we understand that people pleasing often develops as an adaptive strategy to maintain safety, connection, or approval—particularly in childhood environments where love felt conditional or where conflict had serious consequences. Our trauma-informed approach recognizes that while these patterns may have been necessary survival strategies earlier in life, they now limit your authenticity and wellbeing.
What you’re longing for is possible.
By pursuing therapy for people pleasing at Evergreen Counseling, you can imagine:
You automatically say yes to requests regardless of your own needs or capacity.
You thoughtfully consider requests and respond authentically based on your boundaries.
Your self-worth depends entirely on others' approval and validation.
You develop internal sources of validation and a stable sense of inherent worth.
Anxiety arises at the mere thought of disappointing others.
You recognize that healthy relationships can withstand disappointment and disagreement.
You're uncertain about your own preferences after years of focusing on others.
You reconnect with your authentic desires and values as guides for decision-making.
Resentment builds as you give more than you receive in relationships.
You create balanced relationships with reciprocal care and respect.
What if I’m Not Ready?
Not Quite Ready to Book a Complimentary Concierge Matching Call? That’s Okay.
We understand that taking the first step towards therapy can feel overwhelming. We’re here to make this decision easier for you.
Starting therapy can bring up mixed feelings—part of you might be eager, while another part hesitates to confront deeply buried emotions. You might doubt whether therapy can help, especially if you’ve struggled for a long time or had disappointing experiences with untrained therapists or life coaches. At Evergreen Counseling, our trauma-trained therapists are deeply committed to providing expert care.
Here’s How We Can Help You Move Forward
- Complimentary Concierge Matching Call: Our concierge matching call is an opportunity for you to ask questions, share your concerns, and see if our approach feels right for you—without any obligation.
- Reimbursement Options: Concerned about the cost? We can guide you on how to get reimbursed for therapy using your out-of-network insurance benefits, making high-quality care more accessible to you.
- Informed Decision: Whether you’re ready to start or still exploring your options, we want you to feel fully informed and confident in your choice.
